Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Get over yourself

Get over it and grow up.

We all have problems and yours are not more important than someone else’s just because you think it is. No one has a perfect life. Not a damn soul. There is always something just a little off about it. 

What makes our lives good is what we do with it and how we cope with the challenges that are put before us.

Getting out of our responsibilities and putting them off on someone else is not an answer.

Today I’m just a little perturbed at people. There are those types that think they need to be the center of attention. They will of course say that is not the case. However, their actions paint a much different picture. You do not need to be placed on a pedestal and looked upon with wonder every damn day of your life. That is how you act. The world must be about you. Lord help it if it happens to be about others someday. Like your own offspring.

There is a point in your life where you will go through a phase of living and doing what is needed to be done for your children. You will have time for yourself again one day, but for a time it will be about them. That is when we find out who a person really is. Will they do what is needed for their kids, or will they not. Not matter if you opened your legs or pulled it out of your pants you are a parent. You need to do what is right. Don’t dish it off on others to take care of. Don’t stick your family with what you should be doing your damn self.

Grown-up: Not childish or immature

That is just one of many definitions of the term grown-up. If you can’t be a Grown-up then keep your legs closed or keep it on your pants.

Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Movies, TV and Reading

Do you balance movies, tv and reading out in your life? Do you set aside a set amount of time each week for reading? These questions cover my post today.

As an aspiring writer I make sure to set aside time for reading. My current reading time is in the afternoon when I am waiting at school to pick up my daughter. I normally arrive about 30 minutes before school lets out to get a decent parking space so she does not have to walk too far. I always have my kindle with me when I go. That give me 30 minutes a day, 5 days a week. I consider that working training time. I read to understand my own writing better. I also make sure to bring my kindle with me to any appointments I have to go to for the same reason. I keep a selection of books that I “want” to get around to reading.

Now with all of that being said, there are also books that fall under the “need” to read rule. Those are ones that I will sit and read for a few hours a day until it finished. Right now the ones that fall under that section are any new Star Wars books. Yes I am a Star Wars fanboy and I read almost everything that is released with only a few exceptions. Those being the books aimed and the under 12 crowd.

So my reading is mixture of learning and entertainment. I love stories of all types. That is why I love TV as well. I have read interviews with a number of writers that say they don’t watch TV for numerous reasons. I on the other hand watch some every night. Some could say I watch too much. With the DVR I can watch an hour show in under 45 minutes. 3 shows in a little over the time two would have taken not too long ago. It is also time that allows my wife and I to relax and just do nothing for a bit that day.

Now my writing process is different than most people. I try to set aside 3 to 4 hours during the day when the kids are gone to write. My house is just too dang loud once they are home to get into the zone. So for me it is like a work schedule. It is the only way I can enjoy it currently.

Movies come in third on my list. I only go to the theater a hand full of times a year. Basically because we have 3 kids and they all want to go and of course they want me to pay. I go to the movies to laugh and watch stuff blow up. That means action type movies for the most part. The romance and drama movies will get watched once they come out on video. About 4 visits a year is all I make to the theater. Now once all the kids are out of the house it will be more often.

So, how do you balance things?

Thursday, October 15, 2015

How much time do you need?

So how much time is enough time to actually sit down and get some decent writing done?

This is a question that will have more correct answers than anyone ever thought. For this post however, I will only look at myself.

So how much time is good for me. Yes, I have had those days where I have sat at my laptop and clicked away on the keys for six or more hours at a time. I have also had those days that I sit there and stare at the screen for an hour without doing a dang thing. Those days we won’t count. I am an aspiring novelist with a household full of people. I am also the stay at home father so I spend a fair portion of my time running kids around to school related functions and any and all appointments the kids need to get to. It is rare that I have week where there is not at least two of the three weekdays that I don’t have something I have to do for them. Weekends are almost out of the question for my writing since there are five kids in the house. Add to that it is football season and yeah, not going to get any done on the weekends.

So where is my goldilocks zone? I believe it is somewhere around 3 hours. If I have at least a 3 hours block with nothing else going on I can get myself into a good writing rhythm. Under 2 hours and I consistently feel like I need to be wrapping it up soon. Therefore, preventing me from getting into the “zone”. I can’t force myself to write. It’s just not something I can do. If I don’t feel it, then it just won’t happen. It took me a while to learn that one. If I pass the 4 hour mark when writing, my mind begins to wonder off. Either other story ideas or something about the kids. So for me I would have to say 3 hours. That is what I need to actually sit down and write. What about you?

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

It has been a while.

So I haven't posted on my blog in months. There are many reason for that. Life at the house has been crazy. There had been a major shift in the dynamic in the home. We added a coupe of family members that needed a place to live for a while. We are not sure how long they will be with us atm. They are still school age and have things going on that needs to be addressed so we are working through that.

Moving forward I want to focus on a topic that interest me at least a few times a week on this blog. I am still writing but it has slowed down tremendously with the shift in the household. Going forward I hope I return to having time to write on a daily basis.

So check back to tomorrow to see my thoughts on my first topic. How much writing time is a good amount.